It’s tough getting along with difficult people, but it can be done. Come on, we’ve crossed paths with them since our first day at school.
Remember the kids who we didn’t think we’d get along with? The teachers who always made our lives miserable? And how about that leech of a classmate who never contributed anything to group projects? We’ve all been there and in some cases, are still there!
Getting along with difficult people might be something of a challenge at first; but once you see that you’ve got other options aside from the “grin and bear it” strategy, you’ll be amazed at how easy it can be.
Here are 3 effective ways to deal with them.
Step 1: Smile Genuinely.
We’ve been told to grin and bear unpleasant things so many times that to be told to smile at difficult people just seems so ineffective. But see, there is a huge difference between the two.
Grinning and bearing it means that you’re only tolerating the person or the situation; whereas smiling means that you’re seeing the person or situation in a more positive light.
Instead of concentrating on the negatives, you focus on the positives. Smiling also helps you feel better about the situation as well. Besides, difficult people won’t expect you to smile at them so easily. It’s not only a disarming move, it will also make you look different in their eyes.
Step 2: Understand Where They’re Coming From.
While we deserve an award for getting along with difficult people, that does not make them the bad guys. In fact, you might be surprised at what you uncover once you take the time to understand where other people are coming from.
Let’s take a guy named Eddie as an example. He’s one of the bossiest people you’ve ever met and he constantly nitpicks at every little detail. Most people dislike him and have a hard time dealing with him, but not you.
That’s because you know that he only wants the project to become a success and that he’s giving it his all. Sure, he’s bossy but you know that’s only because he’s a perfectionist.
Someone like you whose priority is to get the job done understands that; and in turn, you don’t feel threatened or annoyed by it.
Step 3: Always Take The Mature Route.
It’s so easy to just give in and scratch another person’s eyes out or hit them with whatever you’ve got lying around, but that’s not going to solve anything.
Getting along with difficult people is not always easy, especially if you don’t have a lot of patience; but giving in to immature urges will only make the situation worse.
So take a deep breath and calm yourself when they irritate or treat you badly. Repeat to yourself several times, “I’m in control of myself.”
Follow these tips and getting along with difficult people will soon become second nature to you.